Objectify This

Hat tip to Thinking Girl for leading me to A Cat And Twenty’s thought-provoking article on the overused apology. Kate D. of ACAT cites example after example of women who were victimized and then apologized.

Why do women apologize so much? I’m sorry, I have no idea, so I went to Wikipedia, so I could at least provide a sorry-ass definition.

According to Wikipedia, an apology is “a justification or defense of an act or idea, from the Greek apologia (απολογία). An apology can also be an expression of contrition and remorse for something done wrong.”Women are told repeatedly of all of the standards we must live up to: we must be sexy and not vampish, thin but curvy, kind but not stupid. We must not steal the show, but we must stand out. We must not be teases, and we must not be easy. As the New York Times wrote, “For Girls, It’s Be Yourself, and Be Perfect, Too.” So if we fall short, it’s our fault.

I guess I can just keep that in mind: that an apology should be a sign of remorse, reserved for asking forgiveness. In Spanish, we make that distinction between ‘lo siento’ - ‘i regret it,’ which is reserved for greivous mistakes, and ‘perdon’ - which means something closer to ‘excuse me.’

Here are the Pigeon Detectives with I’m Not Sorry.

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